Sex can feel really great, especially with someone that you’re really into, but when you start to have sex with other people you have to be able to take responsibility for your actions and for your feelings.
Penetrative sex between men and women can result in pregnancy and you should be asking yourself if that is something you want or are ready for. Also, for all people having sex there is a risk of picking up a sexually transmitted infection or even HIV.
There is also an emotional side to having sex, because you don’t just have sex with someone’s body, you also have sex with their minds and this can make you or your partner(s) have very strong feelings.
Maybe you need to ask yourself if you’re ready to be dealing with those kinds of feelings which can range from delight and joy and happiness, to feeling very close and intimate to someone, to anger, jealousy and frustration and' of course' love.
This is great if you are ready for a relationship and you are in one that is good for you where your partner gives you as much as you give them.
These feelings can be difficult to deal with in yourself and if they are feelings you have brought out in someone else. That’s why it is very important to talk about what you want and what your partner wants from sex or from relationships and check out that you are both feeling ready for it.
This isn’t the easiest thing to do, however if you want some advice on how to talk things over with a partner, you could go to one of the young people’s services to talk about this either by yourself or with your partner.
www.bebooksonline.co.uk is a website that may help you explore these issues in more detail.