We know all the reasons why it’s a good idea to have Safer sex, but how do you do it?
There’s lots of things that you can do to get sexual pleasure with yourself or your partner. You can use your tongue or your mouth or fingers to stimulate you or your partner’s body. And not just sexual parts either. You see, the whole human body has lots of sensitive nerve endings under the skin, and that means you can get sexual pleasure from being touched or fondled or caressed almost anywhere. Ears, nipples, necks, hips, toes, fingers and backs can be favourite places for some people. If you’re entering into a sexual relationship, knowing what turns you on and gives you pleasure, means that you can communicate this to your partner.
Some couples like to experiment with other things that can give Sensual pleasure such as food being placed on the body and licked off and being tickled or stroked with particular fabrics. Basically anything that you and your partner want to do that doesn’t involve sexual fluids coming into contact with your partner’s sexual parts is safer. You do need to make sure you talk about it and check that it’s what you both want to do and feel ready for. You must also both be over 16. Other than that, your imagination is the limit!
If you have had unprotected Penetrative sex or your method of Contraception has failed or you have missed a Period, you may be worried that you are Pregnant. It is really important for you to take action immediately to find out what the situation is.
The sooner you know for sure, the more you will be able to take control of the situation and make the right choices for you. Don’t worry if you are under 16, you can still use the services listed here in confidence and you don’t need an appointment for the young peoples clinics you just drop in.
First of all, if you have had unprotected Penetrative Vaginal sex or your method of contraception has failed you can get emergency contraception (the sooner you access it, the better). There are two methods you can use to prevent getting pregnant. The sooner you take action the more effective these methods will be.
You may be too late to access emergency contraception. This means there is a possibility that you may become pregnant. This can be a really difficult and confusing thing to face up to but you don’t have to go through it alone. At the services listed here you will be able to speak with one of the staff and talk over what some of your options are. If your period is late, probably the first thing to do is a Pregnancy test. You can buy these at chemists but they can be quite expensive. However, you can get them free at a young person’s sexual health clinic, Sexual Health and Reproductive Service clinics, Integrated Sexual Health Clinics (formerly Genito-urinary GUM) clinics or your GP and get all the support and back up you need whatever the result. Whatever your situation, the sooner you do something about it, the more choices you will have.
If your test is negative
It might be an idea to talk over a method of contraception or protection that suits you best or you might want to discuss things about your relationship.
If your test is positive
If you are pregnant you still have choices available to you. You may wish to go ahead with the pregnancy and have a baby, you might want to think about going through with the pregnancy and having the baby adopted, or might want to have your pregnancy terminated (abortion). This kind of decision is not easy. Please seek some advice at one of the Sexual Health and Reproductive Service Clinics or your GP to talk through your choices.